by Maria Edfrel Haboc
One of the main causes of early pregnancy is the curiosity of a teenager about sex and peer pressure.
According to the teen survey released by the Kaiser Family Foundation, (http://www.thebody.com/content/art28021.html) which portrays a comprehensive picture of youth attitudes and the risk of STDs and pregnancy. Despite the fact that both teen pregnancy and birth rates have been declining for a decade, the Kaiser survey spotlights areas of concern:
- About one in six young people say having sex without a condom occasionally is not a big deal.
- About one in five say they have had unprotected sex after drinking or using drugs.
- Four in 10 sexually active teenagers have taken a pregnancy test or had a partner who did so.
- More than half of 15-to-17-year-olds say they have been with someone in a sexual way.
- Among teens that have abstained from sex, nearly a third say they have been “intimate” with a partner.
“Changing social norms and cultural expectations as well as delayed marriage means many young people have multiple sexual relationships in their lifetimes and need the information and tools to make healthy decisions and communicate with their partners,” the report said.
I remember before during my high school days, sometimes it might seem like everyone in school is talking about who’s a virgin, who isn’t, and who might be. For both girls and guys, the pressure can sometimes be intense.
No one wants to feel left out of things, it’s normal to want to be liked and feel that you’re part of a group of friends. Sorry to say, some adolescents feel that they have to lose their virginity to keep up with their friends or to be accepted.
Having sex to impress someone or to make your friends happy or feel like you have something in common with them won’t make you feel very good about yourself in the long run. True friends don’t really care whether a person is a virgin. They will respect your decisions, no matter what.
When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you’re totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it’s okay no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge, and it shows that you are powerful enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body.
If you find yourself feeling confused about decisions related to sex, you may be able to talk to an adult (like a parent, doctor, older sibling, aunt, or uncle) for advice. Keep in mind, though, that everyone’s opinion about sex is different. Even though another person may be able to share useful advice, in the end, the decision is up to you.
Each person must use his or her own judgment and decide if it’s the right time and with the right person. This means considering some very important factors; both physical ones, like the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) plus emotional factors, too. Though a person’s body may feel ready for sex it also has very serious emotional consequences. Deciding whether it’s right for someone to have sex is one of the most important decisions a person, specially the teens ever have to make.